Tempted to feel hard-done-by?

Perhaps it is the 5 minutes with your cup of tea when you start to scroll through social media, or as you sit listening to a friend talk about her job... or relationship... or holiday...

At some time most of us find ourselves feeling discontented, perhaps even a degree of self-pity as we compare our own situation to that of someone else. Here's a book that can help us keep life in perspective and ourselves in check:


Compared to Her

by Sophie de Witt


Most women compare themselves to other women in many different ways. Until I read this book, I didn’t appreciate how much of a real problem it is.

Written in short bite-size chapters, Sophie offers the solution through finding contentment in God.


I read this book again over the summer because I was really struggling with contentment and,


"in many ways, I didn’t think it was possible to feel content again. Yet, by God’s grace, I came away from reading it knowing that contentment was and is possible"



This is the sort of book that you have to come back to again and again.

This time, I decided to write down the most pertinent phrases and Scriptures to refer back to in my ongoing battle with contentment. I’ll share some of them below:

  • "Find your significance, satisfaction, and security in being created by God and saved by God” (p.70) He is the centre. Make Him the centre of your life until the comparisons fade into insignificance.

  • Read Ephesians 2 v 1-10 followed by Ephesians 1 v 3

  • I am significant in Christ. I am satisfied in Christ. I am secure in Christ. Everything else: what I’m like, what I have, and what I do, pale in comparison.

  • Compare ourselves with ourselves “to who we could have been for God, given the abilities and circumstances that HE has given us” – On a bad day, don’t despair because God, in His undeserved kindness (grace), has given us all we need in Christ. On a good day, that’s no cause for boasting, it is ONLY because of Christ that we are, who we are and we have done, what we have done.

It’s only 100 pages and well worth a read or, if you’ve read it before, a reread!


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